YankeeInGeorgia said: I understand your plight hotmess. Last night my wife tied me up really well for the first time and blindfolded me. I actually could NOT get out of it. And for about an hour she came into the room every 10 minutes or so and wouldn't tell me what was coming. I got cold mashed potatoes, hot vegetable oil, hot sauce (my legs were on FIRE - it was really intense) cold pies all over. It was fucking awesome, but it didn't happen like this right away. I had to constructively tell her what I loved and didn't so much about many sessions before this for her to get it right. It's all about communication. This is the first time she went shopping and wouldn't tell me what she was going to use on me. I'm a lucky guy. She doesn't like messy play, but we've communicated well enough that she indulges me and is satisfying my needs in this crazy ass fetish we have lol. I suggest you develop a relationship with someone that can take care of your desires the way you want it done, but don't expect it to be perfect the first time. Just be kind to your partner and suggest ways they can make it better for next time and eventually it'll be euphoria.