Do you avoid WAM in your normal non-WAM life?

Earlier this week, I walked past a sorority pie throwing fundraiser. It was the first "live" candid/non-fetish WAM for me, and I just walked by it. Part of the reason was that I had an appointment to keep, but even if I did not, I don't think I would have participated or even hung around to check things out.

How many closet WAMmers would react the way I did? Considering where I work, I guess it's weird that I have not encountered any candid WAM in my personal life, yes I am a boring guy... and I will admit I do not go around "looking for" candid WAM events. I will confess, I would very much like to, but somehow I feel this aversion to even watching a WAM event in my non-fetish personal life.

I avoid real wam events, too!
I thought I was alone in my reaction.

I can't avoid it... Mess is just attracted to me. staying clean is a serious issue for me. I am always getting wet or covered in paint, food, anything there is to make a mess with, it's heading my way. Even my daughter makes pretend pies and tricks me into sitting on them or throwing them in my face (I honestly don't know where she gets it) Right now I have yellow paint on my blue jumper, on my left shoulder.... How did it get there? Fuck knows, but it's definitely normal for me!

The universe clearly wants me messy. But you know what they say about the law of attraction right?!

So, even if I try to avoid mess in real life, it's futile. It's why I never wear white.

Jessie xx
www.messy-jessie.com

I would totally be hesitant to be around any messy events that are not specifically related to a sexual experience. For me WAM has always been a completely sexual/erotic thing and just a strictly "in the bedroom" or "on the computer" affair for me - it would be both embarrassing and inappropriate to end up getting a raging hard on whilst watching some local mud volleyball, or worse yet some sort of charity pie throwing event. I'm really not ashamed or embarrassed of my fetish and have no problem telling close friends or girls I am dating but I do not want to be a creepy pervert getting secretly aroused by some event where everyone else is NOT in on it.

I completely relate to the first bit. I've never seen the entertainment factor in pieings or gungings, etc. To me, it's only ever been a sexual thing. I'd avoid WAM IRL not because I'd be worried about suddenly having to sit down (it wouldn't happen, as the WAM isn't in a sexual context) but because it's just not entertaining.

I've been going to mud volleyball for years, I don't recall wandering around with a raging h/o. I enjoy watching, but I'll get my jollies later. I hope I don't come across as a creeper

When I was involved in PTO many years ago, I volunteered to be in a pie in the face booth for charity (none of the other moms wanted to get their hair messy)! I really did it for the fundraising but I knew Jhub would be excited to see me pied by a lot of strangers. Boy, was I wrong!

He practically freaked out and refused to even watch it. He thought for sure others there would figure out he had a 'thing' for the pies and I think that's what bothered him the most.

So there was no traditional 'after' when we got home. So we have both learned that public pieing and mess is just not our thing.


PGKay

So does this mean if we see you in the street we can throw a bucket of water over you?!

By the way, congratulations on becoming German
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=UlGSDsbXcQw

I used to avoid it for the reasons mentioned above. The idea of being in or around public WAM situations was mortifying.

The difference is that I really can see the non sexual entertainment value, and appreciate it on that level. I also think I am reasonably capable of compartmentalizing the two kinds of feelings so I don't turn into a creepster. It takes some skill at relaxing your mind, embracing the fun and the comedy of the situation. And, finally, I'm at a point in life where I don't care a great deal about whether or not people know about my fetish.

So I've come to some standing convictions. Morally, it seems wrong to organize these sorts of events under false pretenses. But it's prudish, cruel, and a little strange to blame people who decide to participate in a normal activity just because they have different feelings for doing it. So long as I don't behave in a dishonorable way, nobody has a right to point fingers at me for having an emotion.

I guess I am at the opposite end of the spectrum. I have gotten excitement and amusement out of the times Janet has been caught messing. And I really enjoyed when she came to my school and swam in the fountain and got pied in the parking lot. There were lots of people dunking her at livedunktank.com too.

At the same time though, it is all about controlling your urges. I can see her get wet or messy in public and not have to be a creeper and rub one off then and there. Same as most people can control their desires if a hot girl sits next to them on the bus. You can appreciate her beauty yet still keep your urges in check (I hope). Kind of the same thing at a messy public event. My unsolicited 2 cents...

-JD

This whole subject was tested on me recently during the whole 'ice bucket challenge' phenomenon. Here is every TV journalist jumping on the bandwagon and soaking themselves. It was great to see....hell, *some* of them were true wetlook sights to behold......until the ones that I personally work with started doing it. I wanted no part in it.

It's strange. I have met friends face to face through this site and we get along fine, but it was kinda awkward watching my coworkers and friends going through the motions of the ALS challenges. It was a combination of real world and 'fantasy' world which I never thought would happen, and to be perfectly honest it wasn't a turn on--at least not when the people I actually knew were doing it. I could totally get into the fun, but I found myself kinda just downplaying the whole thing.

I'm not ashamed of being into this as all of us here are, but it's obviously not something you would bring up in a work environment. When those two worlds crash head on? Yeah.....it makes for some fucked up conflicts!

For many years I felt the same way as OP. was afraid people would read my mind or something, that they could tell I was way more into it than I should have been.
These days, I seek those moments out. So much more fun to participate than hide.

Yeah.

Such a beautiful, sexy *hausfrau*! :lovestruck:

Norman

My husband has no problem controlling his 'urges'. I wasn't implying he'd be sporting a 9" boner through his pants as I was getting pied.

Like many have said, it was more of a paranoid thought that people would somehow read his mind that he was into this.


PGKay

Yes, I definitely avoid it. About four or five years ago I had an attractive female friend tell me that she wanted to pie me because she thought it would be funny. Just having her tell me that was enough to make me very well, you know. It never ended up happening though, mostly because she would have been an unwitting participant and it would have seemed wrong to use her for my personal sexual gratification without her knowing and agreeing. Plus, Im pretty sure that if she had creamed me, it would have led to me creaming me as well, which definitely would have led to her finding out!

Sorry if you misunderstood, I only meant that I am opposite of your husband in that I enjoy seeing Janet get messy in public which was stated in the first paragraph you didn't include in the quote. The second paragraph you did quote was just meant as a general observation that every guy (and gal I'd assume too) can see something that turns him on in public; not just wammers.

-JD