I am 55 now and very comfortable with who I am. But one thing I still struggle with when I meet someone or am in a group of friends is, how on earth do I own the fact that I would rather indulge in sploshing than have vanilla sex? I mean I want to but although I am completely self accepting I am still embarrassed by who I am. It just doesn't seem fair that I should feel second rate and not be nonchalant about our thing. Wam is beautiful and doesn't harm anyone. I think if the whole world was all sploshy it would a more pleasant lovely place. Although I don't post much I love this community it's a beautiful space of great nurturing people. Keep it all up, it means the world