I'm a female with a WAM fetish (had it as long as I remember) living with another WAMer. We have both wondered what if we have kids and they're like this too? I know my sister is not a WAMer. She tried WAM with her partner. She didn't find it a turn on, fun but no arousal. I'm not quiet as close with my brother but I'm 99.9% certain that he does not share my fetish from the way he reacts to WAM on TV etc. Don't discuss sexual things at all with my folks but again their reactions to things would say no. Although I can't remember being with out a WAM fetish I do know from my background of several things that would have been likely to cause a WAM fetish to form. None of them relate to mess on TV and I think without it slime wouldn't be my primary fetish object it would be mud but I'd still have the same fetish. I think if WAM were inherited I'd have spotted other WAMers in my family. On the point that Bryce made about there being more female WAMers we just don't come on here. There are many who wouldn't not because the UMD is a meat market but because women can't be bothered to pay for porn when we have our imaginations. We don't pay for normal porn as a WAMer I've never paid for WAM porn. Even so I think the males massively out number the females. Nancy Friday and other sexual researchers have found very few females with fetishes during their research. Fetishists are rare anyway but female ones are rarer. On the point secretlife made about fetishes being classed as a disorder that's because the original definition of a fetish was something non sexual that someone needed in order to get aroused. Personally if I wasn't aroused by sexual activity such as kissing without being or imagining being wet and messy I'd consider myself to have a disorder.
My wife isn't into WAM although she's aware that I am. I can get turned on without getting messy, but when it comes to climax I sometimes still find that it helps to imagine what it would be like if the mess were there. For example, if we're in bed, sometimes I imagine how it'd be if we were getting hit by pies whist having sex. That said, I don't always do that - it's just that WAM provides that extra stimulus to really turn me on. Occasionally my wife whispers in my ear as we're doing it and describes messy scenes to me - that's interesting because we've only ever got messy about twice in the whole time we've known each other, and even that was so little it could barely be classed as WAM.
I guess the odd thing for me is that whilst I'm not ashamed of WAM, I don't really understand why it was that thing that turns me on so much. While I don't feel I have a disorder, I would still probably class WAM as abnormal - let's face it, I think the majority of people don't have a fetish, even if they do occasionally enjoy kinky sex.
For me, I can't fully relate to what it's like NOT to have a WAM fetish - I've never known anything else. Sure I've got turned on by other things; I like the feel and look of latex, and I have a real passion for cheerleaders! But those are more of a fascination, whereas WAM is like a drive. It's sometimes tough knowing that my wife will never truly enjoy it in the way I do, but I'd never force her into it, and actually I'm quite scared to even try WAM with her consensually because of how she might react. I had WAM sex before with other women but I guess I just care about my wife too much to let it come between us.
Sorry - I've gone off topic. I guess this situation is the same for many of us in the WAM community, and people can probably relate. It's just nice to know that there are other people out there in the same boat and that I can talk out my feelings openly to you all.