I've been wondering about this question with wam. What is everyone, a giver, or receiver?

I've never done anythign wam related, but I would be the giver. I probably wouldn't want to be the one getting messy, maybe one pie or so.

Mostly a giver. Doesn't do anything for me to receive. Pied my lady quite a few times. At first let her pie me back out of fairness. She doesn't care either way so we don't waste pies on my face anymore. I DO get pretty messed up in the aftermath makeout fun, though.

-PYP

I like both about equally. I love getting messy. But I would also love to get a lady messy sometime. Unfortunately, my wife is not into it, so that takes care of that end of the equation.

But that's why I come here!

Norman

Interesting I thought more people would want to receive. That's the whole appeal of wam to me because it feels so good to cover my body and rub it all over. When i finally get off and im sitting there covered I always feel extremely awkward realizing what I just did and I feel like that is what someone who isn't into wam would feel. I really want to wam with a girl though I'm worried I'll be too nervous to have fun when it happens.

I'm selfish, I think it's better to Receive than to Give.

mostly a reciver so im a bit selfish but will give as well, just to be fair

My wife is great. She lets me pie her ANYTIME I have the urge. I always give her the chance to pie me back, and sometimes she will, but she mostly prefers to be on the receiving end.

I voted "equal" even though there is a very specific sort of power imbalance built into my kink. When it comes to making a playmate messy, I especially favor experiences where I get to do some damage to a formal and/or frilly outfit she's wearing. When it comes to me getting messy, I am strongly biased toward wearing a simple jersey and blue jeans. If I can't be in what passes for fetishwear with my particular quirks, I'd rather simply be nude for the whole span of a scenario. While I also prefer a nude playmate to one in swimwear or lingerie, my ideal messy fun begins with a woman looking immaculate in a long-sleeved silk dress or a nice blouse and skirt suit ensemble.

I so enjoy the sensuality of it all, I much prefer a balance of giving and receiving over any unilateral experience. Yet it often does not feel like true equality, because I look like I showed up in sloppy old clothes to do some painting or landscaping while I encourage my partners to dress like they prepared for a day at the office or at least an afternoon of shopping at high-end boutiques. In the moment these revels often feel destructive, but it is surprising what will wash out given a good hose down as part of aftercare and a thorough pre-rinse in the laundry. Oddly enough, while I almost never fantasize about clothes ripping and other such permanent destruction, I seem to have a tendency to perpetrate that sort of thing in the heat of the moment. Fortunately most of the women I've known enjoy both the ravishing and the fresh excuse to go buy a new outfit or three.

Regards,
messydom

Id want to receive. The idea of a girl having total control over me is a huge turn on. Id love for her to sit in a big messy cake and then thrust her gooey, cake-covered ass into my face and wipe it all over.

receive & be humiliated

Sadly I've only ever been been able to receive, and from myself at that! All my fantasies involve a woman getting equally messy though, so I think I'd like the mess to go both ways if I ever get the chance.

That's also giving