yeah, that's what I think you guys always miss about this. It's not that these people lack respect for humans - it's that they're stupid.
I have absolutely no problem with the idea of convincing others to do what you want them to do, by concealing or misleading them as to your motivations. It happens every day, in all sorts of scenarios. With a little effort and cleverness, this community could parlay that kind of tactic into some great projects.
What I lament is just how horribly bad these people are at it.
Most of them are totally genuine - they really don't understand that their comments are oafish and overtly creepy. It's mindblowing to me that they don't, they can't really be that clueless - it's like they can't control themselves or something.